Let’s talk about love.
I love myself. I am not afraid to say it.
I want to love others, to cherish other people and connect with them.
I have been exposed to some really good authors recently. All tackling love from different perspectives.
Firstly, there is Koya Webb which my friend Ken Wells introduced to. We listened to a meditation together and I got so into it I decided to purchase her book called “Let your Fears make you Fierce” by Koya Webb (AMAZON LINK). She looks at love as a very holistic experience and talks about looking at the world through love instead of fear; where fear is the root of all shame, anger, disgust anxiety etc and love is its opposite. It isn't just a good feeling read once book; there are exercises, routines, yoga poses and meditations throughout the book to put into practice.
The last 2 weekends I went out to be social and see what the world was like and wanted to talk with some women whilst I was out. But I couldn't do it, I was really anxious and couldn't figure out why. Then I realised that I was taking. I wanted her love / sex so badly that I wasn't prepared to give any back; so that meant I wasn't giving – s if I wasn't giving then I needed to learn how to approach women with love.
Luckily, I had Google in my pocket and searched for the phrase “how to be in a giving mindset when it comes to women” and the second result caught my attention. It was an article by Nick Notas titled “The Mindset You Need to Talk to Any Woman”. In a nutshell it says not to view women as conquests to gain and win but real connect with real human beings. Go to the article, it explains it better than me. ( https://www.nicknotas.com/blog/the-mindset-you-need-to-talk-to-any-woman/ )
I have looked at Nick Notas' site and I'm very impressed. I really like the content and am reading his articles (it is vast!). The next thing I did was look at his resources which had a reading list; the first book on his list is called “The Guyde: Science-Sourced Self-Improvement and Dating Advice for the 21st Century”; which is the one I am reading first. (It can be found at https://www.amazon.co.uk/Guyde-Science-Sourced-Self-Improvement-Dating-Century-ebook/dp/B01N3TZA4P )
The Guyde is a good book. I am only 4 chapters in but it’s like taking just one bite out of a delicious cookie; I haven't read much yet, but I know the rest is going to be good. It’s a self-improvement dating advice book, but it is about being the same person with a better mindset and habits. It’s designed to help cope with negative thinking and fears that can get in the way of dating success.
As above, there are multiple ways of approaching love. They are all talking about the same thing. But if you want to have love from others or with others, you have to love yourself.
If this is hard for you right now, start with the little things. For example, looking after yourself by talking with a friend, getting enough sleep, cutting sugar and walking. When you look after yourself better, you feel better. Start small and get bigger.
I hope you have loved this blog post and I would love to see you soon 🙂