April 23, 2021

Koya Webb

Hi there. 

Welcome to this second blog post. 

For the past 2 weeks I have been following and reading a book by Koya Webb called Let your fears make you fierce. It is the main catalyst for this website. It’s a book about looking at the world the world with love instead of fear and has totally changed my outlook on life. 

The Book can be found at https://read.amazon.co.uk/kp/embed?asin=B07PLKLS13&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_7SNPYP5MQ25764MZ8A4E 

By looking at the world with love, it is about giving and not taking. For example, when you say hello to others, you are not doing it for self-gratification by wanting a hello back, you are doing it for them by offering the hello as a gift and not expecting anything back. This extends to talking with people in general, whether you are talking with them socially or in a work environment. 

This makes you very attractive because you can become very social and not be afraid at the world. 

I have been dipping in and out of this mentality for a couple of weeks now. During the weekend just gone, I went out to Guildford to see what the world was like after lock down. It was a nice experience; I was saying hello to nearly everyone I came into contact with. From buskers, to the people as I walked past and even hello to the bin man.  

However when i wanted to talk to women i was attracted to, i felt a bit different. In 2019 I did a course about how to meet women you don’t know and I like to say it was good and an enjoyable experience, but the feeling is only temporary; its like filling up a bucket with a hole in it. The way I am doing it also feels forced because perhaps I am only doing this because I am attracted to them. perhaps it's because I want something from them rather than doing it from a place of love. i want long term happiness and this is my dilemma - if this does not bring long term happiness, does this mean that I don’t talk to women again? 

From what I’ve read so far, my intuition says that I need to build up self-love again before I get into a relationship or dating again. Part of this is building a life I love, such as with fitness, yoga, and talking with friends – to self-care; such as diet, meditation and getting enough sleep. 

I will talk about what I have learned in this book as I believe it is very important and can help others as much as it has helped me. 

Until next time 🙂 

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