Welcome to this second blog post.
For the past 2 weeks I have been following and reading a book by Koya Webb called Let your fears make you fierce. It is the main catalyst for this website. It’s a book about looking at the world the world with love instead of fear and has totally changed my outlook on life.
By looking at the world with love, it is about giving and not taking. For example, when you say hello to others, you are not doing it for self-gratification by wanting a hello back, you are doing it for them by offering the hello as a gift and not expecting anything back. This extends to talking with people in general, whether you are talking with them socially or in a work environment.
This makes you very attractive because you can become very social and not be afraid at the world.
I have been dipping in and out of this mentality for a couple of weeks now. During the weekend just gone, I went out to Guildford to see what the world was like after lock down. It was a nice experience; I was saying hello to nearly everyone I came into contact with. From buskers, to the people as I walked past and even hello to the bin man.
However when i wanted to talk to women i was attracted to, i felt a bit different. In 2019 I did a course about how to meet women you don’t know and I like to say it was good and an enjoyable experience, but the feeling is only temporary; its like filling up a bucket with a hole in it. The way I am doing it also feels forced because perhaps I am only doing this because I am attracted to them. perhaps it's because I want something from them rather than doing it from a place of love. i want long term happiness and this is my dilemma - if this does not bring long term happiness, does this mean that I don’t talk to women again?
From what I’ve read so far, my intuition says that I need to build up self-love again before I get into a relationship or dating again. Part of this is building a life I love, such as with fitness, yoga, and talking with friends – to self-care; such as diet, meditation and getting enough sleep.
I will talk about what I have learned in this book as I believe it is very important and can help others as much as it has helped me.
Until next time 🙂